Women should be vulnerable yet strong in circumstances.

Women have to know when should they let their guard down and when do they need to protect themselves.

Depending on a man to help overcome her fear is s.t.u.p.i.d.

Comparatively, women have higher EQ than men. To allow a man to take lead in a women's heart is not all that recommended.

However, sadly to say that many women led themselves to self-destruction, hoping their men will rescue them from themselves. Which they won't. It's nothing to do with the man she is with, it's nothing to do with her choosing a wrong man. The problem lies within herself indulging in self-hatred.

Sounds too exaggerating?

Examples that self-hatred manifests in a woman are: being self-critical, eating disorders, speaking of someone negatively, excessive shopping, sexually acting out and rejecting compliments. As simple as they can be, but as dangerous they may become. From these examples, I could easily point out some of my friends or even myself committing such "practice(s)". But if we know is unhealthy, why don't we stop? There is only one answer to that. That is, it is a source of distraction. So we can avoid our deepest, most innermost fears.

What fears? Commonly, female fears involve a sense of being worthless, stupid, ugly, unlovable or weird. Though, these fears are often buried deep within the unconscious until the point whereby a woman starts feeling vulnerable. These women usually appear positive. They tends to try too hard to be positive or stay positive. During early dates, women are able to maintain this appearance, but eventually their needs which they have been hiding, emerges. Just like how a volcano erupts, consequences may be devastating and may not be. But definitely, that would be a time of unrest for the couple.

First step to overcome self-hatred is to openly share a feeling and not let it accumulate. Love yourself then people can love you.